One complaint I hear from a lot of my female friends is that guys just don't know how to give a woman an orgasm, or they just don't care to. As a guy that prides himself on being able to get a woman off (hopefully multiple times), I have to say this just isn't acceptable. Sure, your orgasm is fun... but that's the easy part. The hard part, and the FUN part, is getting HER off!

This post assumes that you actually care about giving your lover an orgasm. If you don't, and you only care about cumming and going to sleep, then move on. If you do care, however, here are some of my time-tested techniques that will get her off both with her clit and her G-spot.

The cheapest, and all natural way to get her off via her clit is to use your tongue, your mouth, and your hands. Rub her clit gently, nibble on it, lick it, see what turns her on while you're doing it and soon you'll be giving her a mind blowing clitoral orgasm. Persistence pays off in this case, as some woman take longer than others to have an orgasm, but the chance of success is high if you do it right.

So what if you've done everything you possibly can and she still doesn't have a clitoral orgasm? That's when you bring in the big guns! Vibrators, and especially high power vibrators like the Hitachi Magic Wand or the Miracle Massager, will induce a mind blowing orgasm in her quite quickly. Some women can barely handle 30 seconds with the Magic Wand before they start going insane!

So what if your lover just isn't able to have an orgasm through stimulating her clitoris? Well, you can always try a G-spot orgasm. You'll have to work quite a bit harder for this, but it is possible. After an immense amount of foreplay, gently put one or two fingers up inside of her vagina and make a "come here" gesture towards you. You should pay attention to her body language to see if she is getting anything out of it. You'll definitely know when she starts feeling it, and then when she does, continue your motion and add some clitoral stimulation with a vibrator, your mouth, or your other hand.

If using your hand just isn't enough, there are attachments you can buy for the Magic Wand, as well as vibrators that are specifically designed for G-spot stimulation.

So what happens if none of these methods work and your lover just isn't capable of having an orgasm? Well, it is normal for a significant portion of the female population not to have an orgasm. Don't feel bad because you can't give her an orgasm, but instead feel great that you tried your best to give her one!

Orgasms for a man are EASY to understand.

You simply thrust, get aroused, finish, and go to sleep =)

Most men can only have one type of orgasm... after which they usually lose their erection temporarily before they can get hard and have another.

Women however, can have MANY different types of orgasms.

These orgasms range from those that are barely noticeable to her man, to SCREAMING, TOE-CURLING, even bed soaking squirting orgasms (Woo!)

And....

THERE ARE ALL SORTS OF ORGASMS IN BETWEEN THOSE EXTREMES!

And...unlike men, the TYPE of orgasm a woman has is often 100% CONTROLLABLE by her sexual partner... YOU!

One of the first steps to giving your girl the strongest orgasms of her life is RECOGNIZING that YOU have control over her orgasms.

Lucky you =)

My point is that you should never blame your girl for not coming. Always be honest with yourself, and ask yourself if you are really sexually satisfying her.

Let's talk about some of the types of orgasms women are capable of having.

Foreplay Orgasms:

These orgasms take place during foreplay (or "pre-penetration" as I like to call it).

Foreplay orgasms are sooo important... because they allow your lover to "warm up" and have multiple orgasms later when you penetrate her =)

Every GREAT lover should have the following foreplay orgasms in his playbook:

Nipple Orgasm: Not all women can have an orgasm through nipple stimulation alone, but since a personally know a few who can I had to put it in here to make the article complete!

Clitoral Orgasm: This orgasm concentrates on the clitoris. Not as intense as the deep spot and other vaginal orgasms but still a great warm up and relatively easy to give.

"Deep Spot" Orgasm: The "deep spot" orgasm is often the first time many woman have a true "internal" orgasm, as it's usually easier for a woman to have one of these than it is for her to have one during sex.

"G-Spot" Orgasm: Similar to the deep spot orgasm but not quite as intense. Still a great orgasm to have in the bag of tricks to get her "primed" for multiples during sex.

Now let's talk about some of the orgasms women are capable of having during PENETRATION:

Penetration Orgasms:

Vaginal Orgasm: Normal orgasm while you are inside of her, much like the "deep spot" orgasm. Usually more intense than any foreplay orgasm but for some woman very difficult to achieve. Far easier to achieve AFTER a foreplay orgasm.

Anal orgasm: This occurs when you have a clitoral or vaginal orgasm during "rear entry". It feels very different to a girl than a clitoral or vaginal orgasm alone =)

Multiple Orgasms: Multiple orgasms are when your lover has an orgasm and you give her another (or many) orgasms right after. This is different than the continuous orgasm which is described next.

Continuous Orgasm: This is when your girl has an orgasm but instead of letting her sexual excitement come down (as many women think they have to because they are sensitive) you INSTEAD keep going and often even harder. This causes her to start orgasming UNCONTROLLABLY and over and over. With a continuous orgasm she will often be EXHAUSTED after and will always say she had not idea how many orgasms she had. 99% of women need to be verbally talked through a continuous orgasm as it is rare that previous lovers have EVER given this to her. She also has no way to do this herself through masturbation. If you give your girl this she just might become sexually addicted to you, so only do this with a girl you REALLY like!

Squirting Orgasm: Ah, the mysterious one! Well first of all I will tell you, squirting orgasms are VERY REAL and every woman has the "equipment" to have one! Actually getting your girl to experience one of these intense orgasms is a whole 'nother article altogether... but let's just say they're a lot of fun =)

...and there you have it. Being a girl does have SOME advantages =)

You can discover how to give your girl each and every one of these exciting orgasms  but for now... since foreplay orgasms are THE KEY to giving her PENETRATION ORGASMS, I'm going to show you how to give your girl a "deep spot" orgasm to start things off...

How to Give Her A Deep Spot Fingering Orgasm:

Step1) Make sure your hands and nails are clean and trimmed.. otherwise not only will you cut and irritate her skin but she will not have an orgasm.

Step 2) Warm up as usual kissing her, rubbing her, both of you get naked

Step 3) Insert your longest finger (middle finger) palm up inside of her and go AS FAR BACK as you can

Step 4) While kissing her and (then stopping kissing her as she gets REALLY turned on) push the tip of your finger into the top back wall of her vagina in a curling motion (go deep!)

Step 5) Start slow, then vary the speed and pressure according to her response, steadily increasing pressure and intensity as you go. Most women need around 5 minutes of this stimulation to have an orgasm, but it's different for everybody. One thing is for sure though... when she DOES finally have an orgasm this way, YOU WILL KNOW IT!

So now that you know how many different types of orgasms your girl can have... It's your job as a man to GIVE THEM TO HER.

Get to it! And if you want to find out how to give her each one of these easily (you can even give her ALL of them in one night!)

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The lights are dimmed, shades are down and your favorite scented candles are burning. The mood is just right to say hello to your monster but is masturbating to porn a good thing or not? To answer that question, yes and no. There is no such thing as good or bad but only consequences of your actions. Every consequence is either desirable or undesirable.

Whether the consequences of masturbating are desirable or not depends greatly on your perspective and who you are. It’s not the action in itself that makes something bad but the person who is doing it.

If the action (masturbating) in itself was inherently negative or positive everyone would have the same response to it. If getting off to porn was bad for you then EVERYONE would experience negative consequences when they did it but we know that is not always the case. Some have good consequences while others have horrible negative consequences.

Most people enjoy labeling something as "bad" without ever thinking that they may play a role in their negative experience. Even worse is that they like to tell others that it’s a "bad" idea-"oh no, you shouldn’t do that!"

Negative Consequences of Watching Porn

The first negative consequence of watching porn can be a very detrimental one: pre-mature ejaculation. Nothing is worse than waiting so long to have sex and when you finally get an opportunity to get laid it’s over in a few seconds. You dread looking at the girl to confirm her disappointment in your performance.

Growing up in a house with other people means that you need to break out some sneaky ninja skills when masturbating. You need to be quick, agile and most importantly not get caught. The fear of getting caught causes you to become speedster when it comes to giving yourself the low five. Get it done quickly before anyone discovers what you are doing or feel the shame of getting caught.

Unfortunately this will cause you to cum quickly when you trade in the computer screen for the real thing. Our bodies are good at learning and remembering things. Through muscle memory we learn skills and abilities that surpass conscious thinking. Without body memory no one would be able to play an instrument or drive a car because we would be thinking too much about every little action.

Cumming too quickly is the result of training your body to remember to do so. Over many quick sessions your body develops a stimulus response to seeing a naked woman. Your body knows that when you get sexually excited it’s time to have an orgasm.

Your body will respond the way you train it to. If, for example, you masturbate very quickly your body will respond by cuming quickly as well. On the other hand if you take your time your body will be trained to wait a long period of time before reaching climax.

The mind doesn’t have the ability to tell the difference between fantasy and reality. If you dream it your mind believes it. Whenever you fantasize about sleeping with the girl whose thong was hanging out the entire class you mind believes that to be real. Since you came very quickly in the fantasy your mind will send messages to the body to cum quickly when you run into the same situation in real life.

On top of that your mind likes to generalize and lump everything into one nice, neat category. It doesn’t see unique and special tits, it lumps them all into one category. When you train your mind and body to cum quickly to one naked woman it will transfer that programing over to any other women you see.

Guilt, Shame and Maddona/Whore Complex

Almost everyone has been brought up on the idea that sex and masturbating is something to be ashamed of. Through society, parents and religion we have been taught to hide our sexual nature instead of embracing it. The biggest tactic of getting people to hide their sexuality is through guilt and shame. The more guilt you have the less likely you will to engage in fun sexual acts.

This guilt and shame is triggered (mostly unconsciously) every time you masturbate. You enjoy it in the moment but shortly after the negative emotions start to come to the surface. You feel guilty or shameful every time you "sin" which leads to lower self confidence.

Porn also leads to deepen your Madonna/Whore complex. The programing that you received from church, society and parents helps you to see women in two different ways: the Madonna and the whore. The Madonna is the good girl that you marry and the whore is someone you use for sex.

Porn will give you an unrealistic view of sex and love. As much as you logically know that porn isn’t really how sex is your mind will start to see it that way. You will see women as a masturbation tool and sex as a jack hammer exhibition.

Masturbating will trigger your guilt and shame which will bring up your Madonna/ whore complex issues. Any woman that is sexual and enjoys sex will be seen as a whore through eyes because of your addiction to porn. If you do sleep with a woman you will judge her and yourself for it-no matter what you do you just can’t win.

Distract Yourself

People have many different ways of distracting themselves when they are stressed out or slightly depressed. When I get into that state I like to do absolutely nothing and just relax. Some like to exercise or drink and some like to get off to Internet porn.

There is nothing wrong with taking a break from life from time to time. It will help you to refocus your mind and build your energy back up to handle the difficult task at hand. Taking a break becomes a problem when you use it to completely ignore and distract yourself from what needs to be done.

Unfortunately another con of masturbating is that it is used to distract yourself from life’s problem. There is a thin line from taking a break and turning your back to your issues. Far too often people cross that line and become addicted to their distraction of choice.

Whacking it to porn is a very large distraction for men who are lacking in skills with women. Instead of taking on this challenge head first they resign to a life of distraction in their fantasy world-"out of mind and into porn."

The problem is that NO matter how hard you try you can never run from your issues. Once you are aware of them there is no going back to blissful ignorance. You can go full force into hiding from them in your porn addiction but they will find you.

A Quick Note before we get to the Positives

I never really bought into the idea that releasing male fluids will drain your life energy. I think it’s complete bullshit that having sex or masturbating, life’s greatest pleasures, will leave you feeling drained.

To me, it seems like the notion that cumming will take away a man’s energy stems from the Church’s belief that masturbating and having sex is a "sin." It’s essentially the same type of ‘this is bad for you’ programming that the Church is perpetuating.

On a genetic level our goal as individuals is to perpetuate the species through sex. We want to live long enough to pass on our seed to as many people as possible. With that said, it seems wrong to believe that our basic design is flawed and our instincts got it wrong.

We are born to fuck and enjoy sex. We feel drained at times after sex not because we are losing our ‘male energies’ but because we aren’t in great shape. If you worked out and ate right you wouldn’t feel any energy lose.

It turns out that sex is life affirming. Not having sex will cause you to become very anxious and unbalanced. "that guy needs to get laid" is said for a reason. His neurotic behavior can be balanced out by enjoying the basic of needs.

If you have bought into this new age spiritual bullshit that cumming is a bad thing get that out of your head right now. Some of you who can attest to this belief are experiencing a placebo effect. The body reacts to your minds beliefs. If you believe you will feel drained after you cum your body will act in accordance.

Positive Consequences of Watching Porn

That was a long list of negatives but there is some good that can come from watching porn. For starters, it feels damn good. It allows you to release some of the pent up tension and anxiety that rage through your body.

Standards are extremely important when it comes to mastering women. If you give it away for free no one will want it because has little value. Developing standards can be quite difficult if you have been a ‘I’ll take what I can get’ type of guy. Porn can be an easy first step to integrating a higher set of standards.

Most men will jerk off to just about anything. Swim suit models, porn stars, naked women in national geographic magazines, it’s all the same to them. If the guy is remotely attracted to the erotic image he will get off.

Start by identifying what type of women really turn you on and stick to it. What do you like? Is it blonds, short girls, tall ones, punk, goth, black, white? Me personally, I like the type of women that you see on suicide girls. The typical blond bimbo you see gracing the cover of playboy does very little for me.

From there you can start to develop an appreciation for beauty vs. ‘oh my god, she’s so fucking hot.’ When you find a girl that really does it for you take time to appreciate her beauty. Don’t focus solely on her tits and ass. Enjoy her entire body and learn to appreciate how beautiful women really are.

Greater Awareness

I mentioned before that masturbating can bring up a lot of unresolved issues to the surface. Consciously masturbating and being aware when they do come up will allow you to transcend them. Without being able to spot your problems you won’t be able to change.

Once you can see and feel your issues the next step is to let them go. Here’s a little exercise that can help you out:

**note: this exercise may sound a little airy fairy but give it a try and you’ll see why I recommend it***

Lay down on your bed or in a chair with your spine straight and place your hands on the middle of your chest. Breathe deeply and close your eyes. Imagine yourself sitting in a peaceful and serene environment. You are sitting down in front of a river in a wooded area.

Breathe deeply as you think of what is holding you back. If your issue is ’sex is a sin’ reach up into your solar plexus (above your stomach, below your rib cage) with white hands and take hold of those words.

Take the words ’sex is a sin’ and bring it all the way up your spine and out the top of your head. Imagine placing the issue into the bright, white running river. Watch as that issue floats along the white river and disappears.

Repeat this exercise over and over until you have removed your issue. This exercise can be preformed on any belief, thought or emotion that is less than healthy.

Increased Sexual Energy

Do the following exercise lying down flat or in a chair with your spine straight as it can be.

Start by breathing very very deeply and very slowly through your nose and into the lower part of your belly. Breathe deep enough to the point where you feel it in your PC muscle (area between your genitals and your ass). Then slowly breathe out of your nose releasing the air.

Once you have that down, imagine white light coming into your nose from the outside, down your front and into your genitals and a little bit into your legs. Once your belly is full with air slowly breathe out imagining the white light coming up your spin, all the way to the top of your head and out. Then bring the white light down into your belly and up again.

This exercise should be done throughout the day but especially during sex. It will help increase your sexual energy as well as your orgasms.

Last Longer In the Sack

Fast pace masturbating can cause premature ejaculation. Watching porn while you take your time and breathe deeply will allow you to last longer. You will see exciting images and not blow your load.

For exercises to help you last longer sign up for the Inner Game Reframe Newsletter on the right and you will receive a free copy of my ebook-How to Lead Her Sexually. The ebook is full of exercises and insights to help you become a better lover.

About the Author

Alex Strandberg is a brutally honest, heart centered, charismatic, take no shit, compassionate, loving, chakra meditating, self educated, female bisexual promoting, Relationship Sex and Dating Master, Truth Seeking, Natural born leader, spiritual warrior, passionate writer and teacher.

Seduction: Without this powerful tool, even the most attractive men won't be able to take women home. The average-looking geek who knows how to seduce a woman will win every time over an extremely attractive man who doesn't know how. It is important that you know how to seduce, once you do, you'll have the luxury of asking, 'My place or yours?'

Great looks alone will not convince a woman to sleep with you; you have to show her that you are really interested and can't leave without her. It's not a good idea to beat around the bush and try tricking the woman into sleep with you and cheesy pickup lines will send you home to an empty bed every time!

A real player is honest and straightforward without being rude. The thrill of the hunt comes from letting women know exactly what you want; how hard the woman plays will determine how hard he has to hunt. The use of seduction is a technique that can be used to get just about any woman into bed with you. The results of seduction are much more effective than any pickup line or beating around the bush. Follow these tips:

* Physical attraction is very well needed. Be clean cut, fresh and well dressed. 

* Appear harmless. When a woman sees you are friendly and not attacking her, she will let her guard down, which will be easier for you to penetrate the fortress.

* Be charming. This is done by showing her that you are genuinely interested in her and only her. 

* Be intellectual. Engage in important conversations about politics or current affairs. Showing your intellect will make her value you and your opinion more. 

* Seduce her emotionally. Women are emotional creatures. Give her a warm and fuzzy feeling. Show her spontaneity and excitement; that rush will addict her to you.

* Show chivalry isn't dead. Women like to be treated like they are special, and they are, so show the princess you can be a prince. 

* Essence. Having it means mixing all of the tips together. This will turn you into an irresistible seduction machine. You must be genuine or women will reject you for being fake or trying too hard. 

After you seduce the woman you're after you will need to keep her interested by:

* Making her feel beautiful. Score major points by making her feel like the most beautiful woman that has ever entered the earth, let alone your life. 

* Put her pleasures first. Don't show her that you are only interested in satisfying your own needs; cater to hers as well.

* Provide her with lots of pleasure. Giving her all the pleasure she needs will encourage her to return the favor. 

* Deliver orgasms. Explore her body to see how you can do so; even if it means going downtown.

About the Author

Want to learn 50 WAYS for approaching, attracting and seducing women? If so, take a look at Scott Patterson's Free eBook which provides 50 tips for instant dating success.

TV shows like Sex and the City have brought female masturbation into the media, but many women haven't quite caught on. Sex researchers at the University of Indiana found that around 20% of women have masturbated in the last 30 days, and 40% within the last year. Comparatively, anywhere from 27 - 68% of men reported masturbating in the last 30 days, depending on age.

Contrary to popular stereotypes, women aren't less sexual than men - they're just not encouraged to play with their bodies the same way males are. How many films joke about teenage boys masturbating? (American Pie was even titled after that special scene!) Growing up, I didn't even know other girls practiced masturbation, but I sure knew boys did! Some women just need a little encouragement to feel comfortable being sexual. Read on for reasons to love female masturbation:

(1) Female masturbation helps women orgasm. In a survey by sex educators Dorian Solot and Marshall Miller, 88% of women who masturbated had orgasms versus only 48 % of women who did not masturbate.

In the same survey, they found women feel its easier to orgasm by masturbating than any other way - including intercourse, cunnilingus, and fingering. Sex is more than just orgasm, of course, and its possible to have amazing sex without it. But to state the obvious, orgasms are fun, and one of the most enjoyable physical sensations we can have. Use female masturbation to enjoy coming alone.

(2) If you have a significant other, you'll enjoy yourself more with them too. If you don't know your own body, don't expect your partner to. Romantic movies aside, men aren't born knowing how to touch the female body. Communication is necessary for good sex, and to communicate you must have something to say!

Some people think only single people masturbate, or that it means their partner has failed. On the contrary! If your partner is feeling jealous, tell them that your female masturbation will mean more pleasurable sex for them too. Playing with a significant other is fun, but if you rely on them as your only sexual release, you'll probably be disappointed. Even soulmates have different sex drives, fantasies, and preferences. When you're in touch with your body and share that with your partner, you'll both enjoy sex and feel more intimate. Female masturbation enhances your relationships.

(3) That age-old saying - you must love yourself first before anyone else can really love you. Female masturbation is bodily self-love, as cheesy as it sounds. Like a good diet, exercising, and relaxing -- female masturbation is another need to nurture your body. We live in a culture that makes females feel despise their bodies, where we're targets of violence simply for being female.

Making masturbation a regular part of your life communicates to yourself your body's needs are important. By yourself you can explore your desires safely and stir that part of yourself that is longing for something more fulfilling. Female masturbation can result in higher self-esteem, which will also affect your work and family life.

As masturbation proponent Betty Dodson says, "masturbation IS sex." We're so focused on partner sex that we forget about exploring our own sexuality. "Make love", fuck, play with yourself - however you say it, female masturbation means better sex and a happier life.

About The Author: Want more pleasure out of female masturbation? Get real, raw, and unfiltered sex tips, reviews, and commentary at Kelsey Education.

You see a lot of articles about what men can do during sex to make it better for the woman, but there's a lot less information - and opinion - on the mistakes women make. So, to set the record straight, here's our list of ten things for women to avoid.

1) Expecting him to think like a woman

We've all seen loads of books with titles like "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" which highlight an unfortunate difference between the sexes. Men and women don't think the same way - and while we're not going to get into why this happens, it's important to remember that fact when you're in a relationship. In general, men are not as romantic as women, they don't see romance as a necessary prelude to sex, and they can divorce sex from their feelings in a way that perhaps most women can't. So there will be plenty of times when a man wants sex even if he isn't feeling romantic and connected to his partner. 

For him, the physical pleasure of sex is a reward in itself. He doesn't need to be seduced into feeling desire (though he may appreciate it if you do seduce him!), at least most of the time, for his sex drive is a pretty constant part of his maleness. I think that's what women don't understand. 

They know how elusive and emotional their own sex drive is, but they don't appreciate how different it is for a man. Think of it this way: men can enjoy sex with their partner whether they are feeling loving or not; in fact they often find their feelings of love for their partner when they have sex with her. By contrast, women often say they need to feel loving before they want sex - or at least before they are prepared to give themselves heart and soul to a man.

2) Not showing your sexual energy

Women who were brought up to be demure "good girls" (i.e. non-sexual) may find it difficult to express the essence of their feminine energy during sex. And a lot of women also have problems expressing their anger, an emotion which can add real spice to the sexual union between men and women. This lack of sexual energy might appear as a reluctance to initiate sex, a reluctance to be the active partner, a reluctance to make noises or thrust, or simply an overall tendency to wait for the man to lead and direct what happens during sex. 

But believe me, ladies, your man will really like it when you express your passion - whether that means you getting on top for woman on top sex, moving in a way that will give you the greatest pleasure, kissing him passionately, or being assertive about what you want in bed. 

3) Being too gentle when you touch his penis

Men like a firmer touch than women, especially when it comes to their penises. If you ever have the pleasure of watching him masturbate, you'll see how much pressure he uses on his penis - especially as he nears orgasm. If you're doing it for him, ask him to tell you what you're doing right and what he'd like done differently. He'll really appreciate your efforts to give him more pleasure.

4) Not experimenting with sex

The saying has it that men think about sex ten times an hour - or is it a hundred? Yes, of course that's an exaggeration, but it isn't much of one. While some women have a high sexual desire, it's true to say that women in general are much less sexy than men when they're not in the bedroom. Men fantasize all the time - about the things they see, what they'd like to do, how they'd like to do it, and so on. With such an active sexual imagination, it's not hard to understand why a bit of variation in the bedroom routine can keep a man sexually happy. 

It doesn't have to be way out stuff like bondage, either. For example, try changing sex positions once in a while: take the initiative and get on top of him or let him enjoy rear entry for a change. Talk dirty to him if you've never tried that before; explore and play with new parts of his body, such as his anus and perineum, during foreplay - or even during the main event. Seduce him into a "quickie" by leaving a trail of clothes across the floor into the bedroom. Greet him at the door in sexy clothing. Phone him at work and tell him what you'd like to do to him later that day.....well, you get the idea - use your imagination!

5) Expecting him to read your mind

Yes, we know it's difficult to express your sexual desires directly. But men don't think like women. They don't read clues, they don't get hints. So stop communicating indirectly, and tell him what you want. And give him feedback when you get it! That way, he'll know exactly what he's supposed to be doing, how you feel about it, and whether to do it again. For example, if you like what he's doing during sex, let him know with your moans of pleasure.

6) Criticizing him

I think one of the reasons women can be so critical of their man is that they've never learned the art of direct communication. Than means stating clearly and directly what you want, how you want it, and whether you got it - and how you feel about it afterwards. Men appreciate that style of talk - they know where they stand and it removes the uncertainty for them.

Criticism is an indirect way of saying that your needs are not being met - but if you read number 5 above, then maybe you've begun to understand that your man won't know what you want unless you tell him. If you're judging his love for you on the basis of his ability to anticipate and meet your needs without you saying what they are, well, I'm afraid you aren't likely to be very satisfied. And it won't be his fault.

7) Letting him take responsibility for your orgasm

A lot of us think that a man somehow has a responsibility to "give" a woman an orgasm during sex. After all, that's how a lot of us were brought up - that a man somehow has to look after "his" woman. And that idea extends to making sure she has an orgasm during sex.....but the truth is that women are responsible for their own orgasms. So while it might be nice for your man to help you get there, if you don't make it to orgasm through his efforts, you can always take matters into your own hands. 

8) Controlling him by withdrawing sex 

One of the most unhealthy things you can do in a relationship is to use sex as a weapon. This is basically a statement that you feel powerless, that you think withholding sex is the only way you can get what you want. Rather than trying to exert some influence over your man by denying him the pleasure of your body, try communicating directly what you want and don't want. (That might even extend to simply saying you don't feel emotionally close enough to your partner to want sex.)

9) Thinking he'll feel the same way about your body that you do

It just isn't so. Men don't attach the judgments to women's bodies that women do. So, for example, even if he thinks your butt really is a bit on the large side, it won't matter to him the way it matters to you. In fact, he probably quite likes it. And he certainly won't be put off making love, or want the lights off, because of it. While you waste time and emotional energy wondering if you're completely undesirable because of some aspect of your body, he'll never give it a second thought. It's women who judge their bodies, I think for the sake of comparison with other women, not men.

10) Not making up with sex after an argument

Well, yes, I know that a lot of couples do make up with sex when they've had an argument, but in fact many more don't. As I said above, most women think that they need to be feeling loving and emotionally close before they want sex. Yet I've met a lot of couples in my work as a sexual therapist who have found that taking the risk and jumping into bed can work really well as a way of getting close again. 

Even if you don't feel sexy or loving when you start making love, after a while the simple act of being physically connected in bed can really change the way you feel about each other. The other way of settling an argument (that's talking, seeking understanding, and thrashing out how you feel) is fine: but once in a while try a more direct method of getting your feelings back on track - just go to bed together!

About The Author: Rod Phillips is a writer for Sex Techniques And Positions. Send your comments and ideas for better sex to tips@sex-techniques-and-positions.com!

Sexual body language is great tool in the dating game and in marriage. Imagine how amazing it is that you are able to tell the person that you want him (or her!) sexually just by simply using sexual body language. And seriously, this sexual body language is not very hard to do too. Some of them come naturally to you, so you would not need to worry about learning 101 kinds of sexual body language just to hint to your spouse or date.

The Gazing Game

Believe it or not but the kind of gaze that you send out can send different kind of messages. If you are with your dream date and you notice that he or she is giving you the alluring gaze, then it just means that he or she is having the hots for you! Fret not if you don’t know how to give the proper gaze. Some of these come naturally to you. When you are attracted to the person, you tend to give the dreamy-and-sexy gaze back.

Check out the hands

Are the fists clenched tightly or it placed openly on the table. If you check out that your dreamdate is rubbing his nose, sliding rings over his fingers or just playing around with loose coins in his pocket, then it is a sign that he is increasingly more excited.

The Mouth

Everyone knows the mouth is a strong sexual body language gesture. You will definitely notice this when your date starts drinking, eating or smoking faster. Even putting things in your mouth can mean that you are sexually interested and are trying to seduce him sexually. Just like how girls lick ice cream cones.

Touching Test

Are you confused whether he is sending the right signals to you? To double confirm, use the touching test. Touch his hand, shoulder or arm. If you notice that he returns the touch, then you guys are definitely heading somewhere.

Subconscious Autoerotic Touching

When we think of something sexual, we will tend to touch ourselves to seductive reasons. Girls and guys rub their upper arms, hips and thighs subconsciously when they are feeling the sexual connection with their date. When we are sexually excited, our skin tends to be more sensitive and this is the reason why when he touches you, it feels good.

Kiss

A kiss seals it all sometimes. Kisses are strong signals that help to tell you whether or not the date is heading into the right direction. If you notice that your date keeps on touching his mouth or tilts his head as you are talking to him, then you should anticipate a kiss coming your way. Start with a slow and gentle kiss and if he doesn’t pull back, then it just means that he is happy to continue.

These are just some of the sexual body language that you should look out for when you are on a date. Learn to pay attention to body language and you will find that romancing is not that hard after all.

About The Author: Michael Dat specializes in dating techniques for men. Find out how to read and use sexual body language. Visithttp://www.datingquestionsformen.com for more dating and seduction tips.