One complaint I hear from a lot of my female friends is that guys just don't know how to give a woman an orgasm, or they just don't care to. As a guy that prides himself on being able to get a woman off (hopefully multiple times), I have to say this just isn't acceptable. Sure, your orgasm is fun... but that's the easy part. The hard part, and the FUN part, is getting HER off!
The Big O
This post assumes that you actually care about giving your lover an orgasm. If you don't, and you only care about cumming and going to sleep, then move on. If you do care, however, here are some of my time-tested techniques that will get her off both with her clit and her G-spot.
The cheapest, and all natural way to get her off via her clit is to use your tongue, your mouth, and your hands. Rub her clit gently, nibble on it, lick it, see what turns her on while you're doing it and soon you'll be giving her a mind blowing clitoral orgasm. Persistence pays off in this case, as some woman take longer than others to have an orgasm, but the chance of success is high if you do it right.
So what if you've done everything you possibly can and she still doesn't have a clitoral orgasm? That's when you bring in the big guns! Vibrators, and especially high power vibrators like the Hitachi Magic Wand
or the Miracle Massager
, will induce a mind blowing orgasm in her quite quickly. Some women can barely handle 30 seconds with the Magic Wand before they start going insane!
Hitachi Magic Wand
So what if your lover just isn't able to have an orgasm through stimulating her clitoris? Well, you can always try a G-spot orgasm. You'll have to work quite a bit harder for this, but it is possible. After an immense amount of foreplay, gently put one or two fingers up inside of her vagina and make a "come here" gesture towards you. You should pay attention to her body language to see if she is getting anything out of it. You'll definitely know when she starts feeling it, and then when she does, continue your motion and add some clitoral stimulation with a vibrator, your mouth, or your other hand.
If using your hand just isn't enough, there are attachments you can buy for the Magic Wand
, as well as vibrators that are specifically designed for G-spot stimulation
So what happens if none of these methods work and your lover just isn't capable of having an orgasm? Well, it is normal for a significant portion of the female population not to have an orgasm. Don't feel bad because you can't give her an orgasm, but instead feel great that you tried your best to give her one!